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Dear baby

Current development (9-10 month young):

1. She loves watching Baby Einstein - Baby MacDonald CD! First 20 minutes x berkedip-kedip. Wahaha. Now started with Pocoyo too. Tak lame lagi boleh buat Pocoyo Dance aku rase.

2. Still very much in love with YBCR. Fav moment on the CD was the first part showing Aleka reading some words with Daddy. She loves the moment when Aleka LAUGH seeing the word 'laugh'. Sampai tiru2 gelak mcm tu. Haha. YBCR CDs are voted as her most favourite show ever! The books are simply brilliant and the flip card sets are so good (to me). Planning to buy the double sided word card pulak :-)

3. Fav song Insy Winsy Spider, Row-row-row your boat, I'm a little teapot, If you're happy and you know it clap your hands, Head and Shoulders Knees and Toes, and last but not least of course OLD MACDONALD! She will move her bootie listening to those songs on YBCR, and whenever I hum the song (without the CD on), she already knew that I'm humming her fav song and started to move her body. Hoho. Now, when she listens to any kind of music (or sound that she thinks is music), she moves her body up and down. Chomel!

4. Astro Oasis is still her fav show on tele. Dengar Asma-Ul-Husna version Ari Ginanjar tu mmg kusyuk macam hafal je. Ke dah hafal? Bagus2. Alhamdulillah :-)

5. When she eats her finger food and I say, "Mummy nak" + nganga my mouth = Nadirah will suap Mummy! HipHipHurreh. Boleh ade adik dah ni. Dah reti kasik org makan. Good girl!

I started up writing this post 2 weeks ago and couldn't find the time to finish it and stop at no 5. Today sambung again, else, tetibe dah 11 months pulaks!

6. She says NANAK..NANAK kalo Mummy Abi lambat suap makan. Adoi. Demanding! Sometimes ketuk2 meja gaks.

7. Whenever I show her Surah Al-Fatihah in Little Reader, she will concentrate and listen attentively.

8. Suke banget nampak cat. Siap pusing2 kepala carik cat meow meow meow. So when we are out and about, nampak cat mesti kejar nak tunjuk pada Nadirah. MEOWWW..

9. Didn't take her first step yet, but able to stand up longer than before on her two chubby feet! Anyhow, this little Chitara's Fear Factor is almost nonexistent. She pushes the walker so fast and we have to maneuver and control the speed manually. [I just wish the push walker has clutch and gear and break!] Karang ade yg tak bergigi pulak. Nauzubillahiminzalik.

10. Sangat pandai bersosial dengan alam sekitar dan manusia lain. Sungguh mesra alam. Ngo nge ong eng ngo ngeee mulut x reti diam. Namun awas. Bayi ini adalah jinak2 merpati sahaja. Dari jauh nampak jinak, bile nak pegang, dia meraung.

11. Bababababaa...Dadadadadadada...Nananananananaaaa...Nananananak..some of the 100 sounds that I can recognize. The rest tak boleh nak eja.

12. The car steering is like her fav spot in the car. Kalau dapat berdiri kat situ mmg muke bangga habes. Pandai cuci windshield (auto mode: air+wiper operated) and buat muke Magis bila ia berlaku! WOW! Belum reti horn je lagi.

13. Drawer, rak buku, rak baju and anything yg sudah berlipat lagi kemas adalah tempat yang paling Nadirah suke nak re-arrange. Drawer kat dapur, dia punggah semua rempah Mummy out of the drawer and then buat muke innocent.

14. Yogurt is her fav food.ever.fullstop.

Aidiladha

Salam Aidiladha to Opah yang beraya di Sitiawan dari Nadirah yang comel.
Kita jumpa di Kelate raya ke-2 ye Opah, insya-Allah.
Opah jangan sedih2 ye Opah.
Doakan kami selamat bali ke KGanu malam ni ye.
Harmony pun ikot sekali Opah.
Diye cakap dy suke naik flight.
:-)

Hari Arafah

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I should have made a post on this beginning of Zulhijjah, but I didn't. So still not too late, let's puasa Hari Arafah, tomorrow, 9 Zulhijjah.

Article below is from here:

Puasa hari ‘Arafah ialah puasa sunat pada hari kesembilan Dzulhijjah yang disunatkan bagi mereka yang tidak melakukan ibadah haji. Kelebihan berpuasa pada hari ini ialah ia dapat menghapuskan dosa-dosa setahun yang telah lalu dan dosa setahun yang akan datang, sebagaimana hadith yang telah diriwayatkan daripada Abu Qatadah al-Anshari ra:

Dan Rasulullah SAW ditanya tentang berpuasa di hari ‘Arafah. Maka Baginda bersabda: “Ia menebus dosa setahun yang telah lalu dan setahun yang akan datang.” (Hadith Riwayat Imam Muslim)

Manakala bagi mereka yang melakukan ibadah haji pula adalah disunatkan untuk tidak berpuasa pada hari ‘Arafah dan adalah menyalahi perkara yang utama jika mereka berpuasa juga pada hari itu berdasarkan apa yang diriwayatkan dari Ummu al-Fadhl binti al-Harith:

Ramai di kalangan sahabat Rasulullah SAW yang ragu-ragu tentang berpuasa pada hari ‘Arafah sedangkan kami berada di sana bersama Rasulullah SAW, lalu aku membawa kepada Baginda satu bekas yang berisi susu sewaktu Baginda berada di ‘Arafah lantas Baginda meminumnya. (Hadith Riwayat Imam Muslim)

Juga daripada hadith yang diriwayatkan dari Abu Hurairah ra:

Sesungguhnya Rasulullah SAW melarang berpuasa pada Hari ‘Arafah bagi mereka yang berada di ‘Arafah. (Hadith Riwayat Abu Dawud dan an-Nasa’ie; at-Thabrani dari Aisyah rha) [1]

Diriwayatkan dari Ibn Abbas ra:

Rasulullah SAW bersabda: “Tiada amal yang soleh yang dilakukan pada hari-hari lain yang lebih disukai daripada hari-hari ini (sepuluh hari pertama dalam bln Dzulhijjah).” (Hadith Riwayat al-Bukhari)

Dalam hadith yang lain yang diriwayatkan dari Hunaidah bin Khalid, dari isterinya, dari beberapa isteri Nabi SAW:

Sesungguhnya Rasulullah SAW melakukan puasa sembilan hari di awal bulan Dzulhijjah, di hari ‘Asyura dan tiga hari di setiap bulan iaitu hari Isnin yang pertama dan dua hari Khamis yang berikutnya. (Hadith Riwayat Imam Ahmad dan an-Nasa’ie)

Adapun berpuasa pada hari Aidiladha (10 Dzulhijjah) dan hari-hari tasyrik (11, 12 dan 13 Dzulhijjah) adalah diharamkan berdasarkan hadith yang diriwayatkan dari Umar ra:

Bahawasanya Rasulullah SAW melarang berpuasa pada dua hari, iaitu ‘Eid al-Adha dan ‘Eid al-Fitr. (Hadith Riwayat Imam Muslim, Ahmad, an-Nasa’ie, Abu Dawud)

Serta hadith yang diriwayatkan dari Abu Hurairah ra:

Rasulullah SAW telah mengirimkan Abdullah Ibn Huzhaqah untuk mengumumkan di Mina: “Kamu dilarang berpuasa pada hari-hari ini (hari tasyrik). Ia adalah hari untuk makan dan minum serta mengingati Allah.” (Hadith Riwayat Imam Ahmad, sanadnya hasan) [2]

Allahu a’lam bisshawab..

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[1] al-Imam as-Syaf’ie rh berpendapat; “Disunatkan puasa pada hari ‘Arafah bg mereka yang tidak mengerjakan ibadah haji. Adapun bg yang mengerjakan ibadah haji, adalah lebih baik untuknya berbuka agar ia kuat berdoa di ‘Arafah.” Dari pendapat Imam Ahmad rh pula; “Jika ia sanggup berpuasa maka boleh berpuasa, tetapi jika tidak hendaklah ia berbuka, sbb hari ‘Arafah memerlukan kekuatan (tenaga).” Begitu juga dengan para sahabat yang lain, lebih ramai yang cenderung untuk tidak berpuasa pada hari ‘Arafah ketika mengerjakan ibadah haji

[2] Ulama Syafi’iyyah membenarkan untuk berpuasa pada hari tasyrik hanya untuk keadaan tertentu seperti bersumpah, qadha puasa di bulan Ramadhan serta puasa kifarah (denda). Puasa tanpa sebab tertentu pada hari-hari ini (puasa sunat) adalah ditegah.

Kuching Photolog

Sampai Sarikin, hujan renyai2.. *gambar blur*

Can this photo win a mystery gift from Snuggbaby? :-)
Snuggbaby 1st Anniversary Blog Giveaway is here! Daku mahu SSC satu puhleazzeeee..

Imah and mak sibuk bershopping.

Ala2 Rantau Panjang gitu..

My sporting baby :*

Kek Lapis Dayang Salhah

In the shop..

After shopping kek, Nadirah dah ngantukss

At Waterfront..

Tata Kuching..we'll be coming back insya-Allah


All pics courtesy of Uncle Yasser.

Tips for Busy Moms

Need A Few Extra Hours? Try These Time Management Tips!

By Elizabeth Scott, M.S., About.com Guide

About.com Health's Disease and Condition content is reviewed by the Medical Review Board

Time management is a big concern for mothers these days. Between kids’ activities, household responsibilities and, for many, the demands of a stressful workplace, many mothers have given up on the fight to find time for themselves and are just trying to get everything done. The following time management tips can be used by busy moms everywhere to take some of the stress out of life, and create more time for fun times with children, quality time with their partner, or even that coveted and nearly forgotten alone time.

Be Organized

It’s been said that an ounce of prevention is worth a pound of cure, and nowhere is this adage more applicable than when discussing time management tips for moms. Simply being organized can eliminate stress from forgotten appointments, double-booking, lost homework, and many other stress traps that busy moms face. What does it mean for a mom to ‘be organized,’ and to what extent is this even possible? If you focus on a few key areas of organization, a little work can go a long way. In a nutshell, being organized with your schedule, with your house and with your discipline strategy is one of the best time management tips I can give you. See this article for more on getting organized.

Delegate!

Yes, when they come to us, they are so sweet and helpless, we end up doing everything for them, and these habits are difficult to break. But then we have their children, and realize that it’s impossible for one person to do it all.

While it’s tempting to cover all household responsibilities yourself (to ensure that everything is done quickly and correctly), putting some effort into getting men and children to pitch in can really pay off in the long run. The trick is to break chores into simple tasks and reward people for doing them. See this article on learning how to delegate tasks for more.

Multitask, But Only When Appropriate

Multitasking was once praised as the time management tip to top all time management tips. (Imagine: Getting twice as much done in a day.) Then people started seeing that multitasked projects weren’t completed as accurately, and suddenly ‘staying focused on one thing’ became the new time management fad. I suggest a compromise: Pair mindless tasks with focus-dependent ones when it’s appropriate. For example, you can make business calls while taking your daily walk (don’t forget exercise as an important stress reliever), or quiz your kids on test questions while you clean the kitchen. But if you feel more harried than helped, it’s time to shelve the multitasking for a bit.

Learn When To Say No

Learning to say ‘no’ to people’s requests may be an obvious time management tip for moms, but that doesn’t make it an easy one. Mothers encounter many different worthy requests for their time and attention, that saying no will often disappoint someone. However, what we don’t always realize is that when we say ‘yes’ too much, people also get disappointed because we can’t do our best when we’re spread too thin. That’s why it’s important to look at your priorities and learn to say no to time demands that aren’t absolutely necessary.

Take Shortcuts

As a recovering perfectionist, I’m a big advocate of doing a good-enough job, especially if you’re a busy mom. If you can get pre-cut vegetables or canned sauce for dinner, do it. If you can afford one of those dishwashers that can handle un-rinsed dishes, even better. The time management tip to remember here is to find the shortest route to where you need to be (getting to the office, getting homework done, getting the house clean), and take it. (Here are some more ideas for household shortcuts).

Have a Routine

Routine are a time management tip that can save you mental energy and stress. I’m not talking about merely getting up and going to sleep at the same time, but even having things like the dinner menu, chore rotation and even sex with your partner on a rotation (you have your needs, too.) This may sound a little ‘too automated,’ but hear me out. When you don’t have to worry about reinventing the wheel each week (“What haven’t we eaten in a while?” “When was this floor last mopped?” “When is the last time we…?”), your mind is free to focus on the rest of your day, and the time it takes to plan these things each week is freed as well.

Be Flexible

While it’s important to have an idea of how you’d like your schedule to look, it’s important to keep things flexible enough to accommodate the unexpected things that moms encounter -- sick kids, spilled milk and the occasional meltdown. Having a rhythm for your day but a time cushion and some backup plans can take the stress out of the unexpected, and keep one schedule hiccup from throwing off your whole day (or week).

Take Care of Yourself, Too!

While taking care of parental, relationship, household and workplace responsibilities, it’s easy for mothers put taking care of themselves last on the list. However, not only is self-care a good idea of physical and emotional health, it’s a good time management tip for moms as well. When we’re tired or haven’t had enough healthy food to function at our best, we’re often less productive and organized, and this lack of clarity can translate into more time wasted throughout the day and less time available to get everything done that needs doing. So get quality sleep, eat a healthy diet, and follow other self care strategies for mothers, and you’ll be operating at your best -— and less stressed.

Duct Taped

Nadirah, Mummy love you so much. I'll drop everything in a dash whenever I heard you crying for me. But there are times I feel like duct taped you to the wall with Harmony so that I can get important task done like preparing your porridge in the morning and solat. Don't get me wrong dear, I adore you more than anything [bagi kategori bayi;bak kate Abi] but please spare your precious serak voice and stop crying unnecessarily. I'm not gonna leave you locked up in the house alone with your hairy sister.

Having said that, Mummy really love the "Most Wanted"-feeling-treatment that you give me for the last 10 short months. I'm surely will miss this moment later when you cry less and play more and make friends and go to school and staying in boarding school and getting married. Uwaaaa.

Ok dear, do whatever you feel like doing now.


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